On Saturday my wife and I travelled to Bath to meet with Juniper. We went out for dinner. Perfectly normal. However, it seemed as though ED tagged along.
Juniper had been attending therapy in Bath, and was working on “enjoying her life”. Doing what made her happy. Not being restricted by ED.
We went to a fish restaurant. I thought it would be a safe choice. The menus came. Juniper studied them. Juniper wanted to have a main course and dessert. She was happy that my wife and I had starters. There was prolonged consideration of the menu. Juniper chose a fish dish with new potatoes. When it arrived it came with sauteed potatoes. It threw Juniper into a spin. The waitress was called. New potatoes came. A side plate was delivered so the sautéed potatoes could be removed. Panic over.
They dessert menus arrived. Juniper wanted a chocolate tart or the sticky toffee pudding. However she toyed with the idea of having ice cream as it was a “safe option”. We talked about “doing what makes her happy”. Juniper chose the chocolate tart, didn’t eat all of it (it was quite rich), but I realised she wanted the safe option which was not the happy option but in retrospect would have made her happier (you might have to read this twice….)
I’m in two minds whether going out to dinner is a good idea at all. We all have to eat . Eating is a social pastime. However is eating out with an anorexic really a good idea? Does it cause to much anguish for Juniper ? Would she have been more relaxed if she had eaten at her flat and had the old faithful ED free poached salmon and cous cous.? I will have to ask her to find out.
I don’t know whether Juniper really enjoyed the meal at all if I’m honest. Perhaps we would’ve been better going to a comedy club. There is a great one in Bath. After all, a night out in a room of comedians would’ve probably made Juniper far more happy than a slice of Belgian chocolate tart.
You live and learn.